The reason the word “possible” is in the title is because everyone is different. What might be signs for someone else might not be signs for you. But I would be willing to bet that at least a few of these apply to everybody struggling with staying clean and/or sober. So without further ado, here is the general list of the top 10 warning signs you or someone you know could be headed for a relapse:
- Overreactions to stress and normal daily activities
- Mood changes like fear, anger, frustration, anxiety and depression
- Not being willing to talk about unpleasant feelings and avoiding unpleasant conversations
- Feelings of tension and frustration
- Telling “war stories” or reminiscing memories of drinking or using
- Social isolation
- Going back to old friendships, social settings, or anything that was present during times of using
- Compulsive smoking
- Feeling lonely
- Staying away from helpful recovery activities such as therapy, recovery meetings or other treatment
If you or someone you know is struggling with this stuff, say something. Don’t judge. If you are the person in recovery, ask yourself what you can do to stop the relapse process. If the person showing these signs is a loved one, let them know what you’ve noticed. That’s all. No preaching or accusations. Recovery is not straightforward. It does not happen in a straight upward line. As we say in the business, relapse is part of recovery. The secrets are figuring out what each individual’s particular warning signs (or red flags) look like, recognizing the changes, and raising awareness. Sometimes these signs can be very subtle. The sooner the person coping with addiction recognizes their own red flags, the sooner they can do something about it and either start over or save themselves. Every single time this happens, something new is learned and growth has happened. Do not see this as a step backward, but as a huge step forward toward total wellness.